Death has a way of putting the world in perspective and it doesn’t matter if it was “expected” or came as a “shock”.

The news of the death made me realise how foolish I am to think that I have any control of my life. This is an illusion that the world tells us – that the world wants us to believe.

That in turn, makes me realise that all my fears of the unknown (ie. the future) is pointless. Because the future has not happened yet…and from now (this very moment) till then (future) a LOT of things are not mine to control. But is that a bad thing?

This is where Faith comes in.

“Look at the birds…why are you worried?” (Matthew 6:26-34)

26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Faith means to place the scary unknown into His hands. Faith means to Trust in His plans for me.

“If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans. – Woody Allen”

Yes of course to some extend I do plan my future but ultimately whatever happens is beyond my control, beyond my imagination. This, of course, freaks me out, but not being in control does NOT mean the future is going to be bad…in fact, it could be beyond my wildest dreams! The key is to have Faith…to Trust…

Not easy. Definitely not easy! This is where prayer helps. A lot!

9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (Matthew 7:9-11)

11 “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? 12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” (Luke 11:11-13)

Petitions are not the only part of prayer of course, but it IS an important part of it. This is where we surrender all our future plans in His hands. We plan…but He determines. He and He alone.

Pray and do so incessantly.

The Parable of the Persistent Widow

18 Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. 3 And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’

4 “For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”

6 And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. 7 And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? 8 I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:1-8)

And with that realisation comes Peace.

Don’t worry about the Past for it has gone, nor the Future for it has yet to come. Instead focus on the Now because it is a gift…that is why it is called Present.

By all means, make plans and decisions today based on how you think it will help your future – BUT do NOT live in the future NOW and jeopardise your Present based on how you think the Future will be because without the Present, there won’t be a Future.

Only God knows the future…and only He ever will.

Have Faith. Trust in God. PRAY. Live in the Present.

P.S. Guess what? God conquered Death too!

Friday The 13th is a “Christian” thing


I was wide-eyed & shocked when my colleagues made such association – and turned to me for clarification.

Not caring if they saw the expression on my face (I was unimpressed, much less amused) I said, “No, it is NOT a “Christian” thing. It’s a Superstition.”

Yes kids. Listen up.

“Friday The 13th” has NOTHING at all to do with Christianity – or any other religion that I know of! and I wonder how they even came up with such affiliation.

Then again, Easter brings a “Bunny” to the mind of some as does “Santa” to Christmas and presents – which also has NOTHING to do with each other actually (Do I hear gasps?) – but that can be on a post on its own so I shall not elaborate.

So, what IS “Friday The 13th” actually about then?

Quoting wikipedia:

One theory states that it is a modern amalgamation of two older superstitions: that thirteen is an unlucky number and that Friday is an unlucky day

…which I find interesting because while people can intentionally “erase” one, the other isn’t possible.

13 is an unlucky number

You may have noticed that some buildings do NOT use the number 13.

This is normally done by either making sure your building does not have more than 12 floors (or that each floor has not more than 13 rooms) OR by renumbering the number 13 to “12B” with 12 being “12A” OR simply “skipping over it” (11, 12, 14, 15, etc) – Superstitious. I have also seen buildings who apply the same rule to anything with a 3 in it (3, 13, 23, etc) or in another culture, the number 4 as that is considered the unlucky number.

Friday is an unlucky day

Somehow, I think this superstition has died off somewhat? I guess that may be in part due to the fact that unlike the number 13, as much as certain people would like to perhaps?, there is no pretending it does not exist, or renaming it, or skipping it! And on the contrary, now people have gone from treating it to an unlucky day to it being a day most looked forward to during the week – especially by wearied workers and partymakers who long for the weekend – what else would Rebecca Black have sung about right (below)?

Quoting wikipedia:

The fear of Friday the 13th has been called friggatriskaidekaphobia (Frigga being the name of the Norse goddess for whom “Friday” is named in English and triskaidekaphobia meaning fear of the number thirteen), or paraskevidekatriaphobia a concatenation of the Greek words Paraskeví (Παρασκευή, meaning “Friday”), and dekatreís (δεκατρείς, meaning “thirteen”) attached tophobía (φοβία, from phóbos, φόβος, meaning “fear”). The latter word was derived in 1911 and first appeared in a mainstream source in 1953.

That’s a mouthful to pronounced, huh?

Well, I don’t know about you but I for one am looking forward to the weekend!

Leaving you now with today’s anthem. Enjoy!

Rebecca Black – Friday

The Madness that is March

We’re near the very end of March and boy has it been one mad (read: so-busy-it’s-just-crazy) month!

For 3 main reasons:

1) I started another blog

No, I am not closing down this blog, if that’s what you’re wondering. 😉 Perfect IMPerfections is my default blog and will stay on for a foreseeable number of years into the future. That said however, I felt it time to start another blog to specifically address a major interest of mine, ie. Travelling.

At the moment, I am slowly recalling back my travels for the past couple of years but I will get to writing my newer travel tales as soon as I can cough up some time on my hands. In the meantime, please feel free to browse: A Road Once Taken. (You can also find the link on the sidebar on your left.)

2) I was playing Hostess

My bro and his family were in town a couple of weeks ago and it being their first time in Brunei in a long time (and a first for my niece), I was on hostess cum tourguide mode. They were here for the 1 week school holidays and I must say, within that 1 week, we covered quite a lot of ground! I’ll do a mini travel guide on Brunei on A Road Once Taken later. 🙂

More importantly though was the fact that the family was able to get together and having my niece over was just super nice!

I absolutely love her! Almost 4-yrs old, she’s simply adorable!

But firstly though, I had to earn her friendship…

You see, she’s the type that takes a while to warm up to people (including those she knows but seldom sees, like me) – in fact, I was in Kuching for a week last month and she didn’t even give me the time of day! (But that may also be due to the fact I was mostly out meeting up with old friends and she went to the nursery.) So I was more than thrilled to have her on my turf this time, secretly hoping she’d be not so tough a cookie to crack.

And I was right! Also, UNO was a great icebreaker, that much I can say. 😉

3) Famine

Apart from the 40acts challenge which I am doing throughout Lent, the 30-Hour Famine was a major event during this season of fasting, prayer and almsgiving.

Last week, we had 200+ youths in our Vicariate (and about 50 of us who made up the committee/service team & helpers) who fasted for, as the name suggests, 30 hours, eating nothing at all and only drinking water. There were, of course, more to the event than this, but basically, as part of the committee/service team, this 3D2N “camp” really had me tied down. (If you’re interested to know more, please note I will blog about it on this other blog of mine.)

So yeah, now with 3 active blogs to keep updated, my career, family, social, spiritual & personal life to juggle and not to mention travels in May & July (and maybe April & August too?), looks like I got a lot to look forward to for the rest of the year!

In the meantime, I have got to squeeze in at least one proper training for the Run happening next weekend. Ai yai yai…